Child & Spouse Abuse in a Marriage. . .

In an article that I read, Brent Bartholomew defines Spouse abuse as being a "behavior that is destructive to the body, mind, or spirit. In fact, long after any possible physical injuries heal, the emotional scars of abuse may still persist." Sometimes, marriage problems can lead to spouse abuse because the people are disagreeing all the time and they have came to a position where they have nothing else to do and they can not control their anger, so they abuse one another.
Most of the time in marriages, it is women who seem to get abuse. I have a friend, who use to live in a household where all her parents did was argued. She was about the age of five, when her parents finally decided to marry, but it was for her sake. She really wanted to be able to say that her parents are married. The father had four children already by another, but one before her by her mother. She was the last of the children. She was so happy when she heard that they were getting married because this was something she had been longing for. The marriage only lasted for four years. Those four years were the crazy years of her life. It seems like after the split up, she grew up every night. Her mother said, “she had to leave, because she refused to be beaten for no reason and by a man”. the mom wasn’t the only one was being abused it was her too. She use to try and take up for her mother because she knew her father had an anger problem and her mother tried to do everything to please him. Nothing seemed to make him happy, that’s why she just gave up and divorced him. She thought that this would be the end of the drama, she thought wrong. Their daughter is now fifteen and they’ve been divorced since 2002, they’ve been going to court every year since then. Why? Because the father wants custody, but the daughter doesn’t want to live with him because of his anger problem and she’s afraid at the age of fifteen that her father will abuse her again. The mother tries to do everything she can to understand her daughter, but it seems like its impossible for her to understand. Her daughter talks to her crazy, she only respects her to a certain point. The mother talks to her the same way, instead of trying to see why it is that her daughter gives her no respect. This young lady has been through a lot to only be fifteen, it might not be as worst as others homes, but this is still a lot of anger and depression to hold inside. It seems like the older teens get, the more they hold their emotions in.



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