Monday, June 2, 2008
feeling down and out. . .
Rather you’re a teenager, a parent, a spouse, whomever. Everyone has their days where something has got you down and you just take everything out on everyone else. You just want to be to yourself and want to be left alone. Family problems, marriage isn’t going the way you want it too, can not just find that one happy place inside. Everyone has been there, but some stay there. It’s their life and they cant seem to change it. Teenager acting out, pretending to be something their not, parents claim they don’t know why. Only if they take the time to sit with you and listen to you talk, they will know something is wrong because you are a part of them. Depression is the worst pain ever. Family is the worst type of problems to have. If you don’t have your family, you don’t have no one. It’s always the closest ones to our heart that hurt us most, or even the ones we find trusting. Feeling like your heart has been ripped out your chest and you can never love again. I feel for teens having this problems. I can actually say I know how you feel. For adults I cant say I truly feel your pain, but I understand. Not knowing what your heart desires and not being in that perfect family or moment everyone wishes for. Life goes on, but that sometimes isn’t the best thing. People say, you’ll get over it, just keep moving forward. Its hard to move forward, when there’s that one pain that’s keeping you back. Your crying out for help deep down inside, but just can’t get that word out of your mouth. Love is the most greatest thing when it comes to loving another, but it hurts like hell. Sometimes the best love is the love that hurts. Love is pain, and without pain, you don’t gain, gain the love that you deserve. Now pain doesn’t mean abuse. Maybe just a little tough love, to show the other you care. Love is never supposed to be bruises, verbal abuse, depression, or just pain period. Parents and children need to come to an agreement one day, and one day soon. Miscommunication is horrible. Your always supposed to communicate, even if you don’t understand at times. Marriages are supposed to be long time commitments. There shouldn’t be a such thing as divorce especially when you have children. If your going to divorce your spouse, then you shouldn’t get married. Yes, I know sometimes you don’t know that your going to get divorced, but I don’t think nobody problems are that bad. Now, if your abusing your spouse or child, you need serious help. There should never be a reason to abuse another, no matter how angry you get. Abuse is a sign of miscommunication. Families aren’t how they use to be. . .
Should teenagers keep their depression to themselves?
Brianne Camilleri had it all: two involved parents, a caring older brother and a comfortable home near Boston. But that didn’t stop the overwhelming sense of hopelessness that enveloped her in ninth grade. “It was like a cloud that followed me everywhere,” she says. “I couldn’t get away from it.”
Sometimes in families, thing may be perfect, but the little things may get to the child. Brianne had everything as the article said, but sometimes everything is happiness. She was only 14 when she tried to overdose, but it didn’t work. When you are dealing with depression and its internal, you make you body go through darkness and you are looking for light that you can never find yourself. Some adults believe that depression is only something they can go through and that it is jus a phase for teenagers, but what they are not knowing is that it is both a child and adult emotion. Children deal with depression by wanting to kill themselves, or hurting their bodies, and hurting the ones who are close to them. Depression can be suicide, this is why they have medication, but sometimes it doesn’t work, it jus makes the situation more worst. Parents like Brianne probably didn’t understand why she was trying to kill herself and stealing for stores. What they didn’t do to prevent this was actually take the time to look at their daughter and see why was she depressed. Her depression could have came from her being peer pressured, going into high school, finally becoming a teenager, feeling like her brother was loved more, or just self depression. Teenagers with internal depression are hurting themselves more then the reason why they are depressed.
If you are a teenager reading this, please tell someone about your depression and why you are feeling that way, especially your parents. Parents can get you help faster, than any one else. You don’t have to explain to your parents your problems, but find someone that you can talk to, because depression can lead you to drugs, suicide, and just danger. Take Brianne for example, she felt like her depression followed her everywhere she went. She couldn’t get away from it because she kept it to herself. She said she couldn’t find a light, when all she had to do was ask for help, but I guess you have to be willing to get help.
Work site: (http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/depression/children_article.asp)
Sometimes in families, thing may be perfect, but the little things may get to the child. Brianne had everything as the article said, but sometimes everything is happiness. She was only 14 when she tried to overdose, but it didn’t work. When you are dealing with depression and its internal, you make you body go through darkness and you are looking for light that you can never find yourself. Some adults believe that depression is only something they can go through and that it is jus a phase for teenagers, but what they are not knowing is that it is both a child and adult emotion. Children deal with depression by wanting to kill themselves, or hurting their bodies, and hurting the ones who are close to them. Depression can be suicide, this is why they have medication, but sometimes it doesn’t work, it jus makes the situation more worst. Parents like Brianne probably didn’t understand why she was trying to kill herself and stealing for stores. What they didn’t do to prevent this was actually take the time to look at their daughter and see why was she depressed. Her depression could have came from her being peer pressured, going into high school, finally becoming a teenager, feeling like her brother was loved more, or just self depression. Teenagers with internal depression are hurting themselves more then the reason why they are depressed.
If you are a teenager reading this, please tell someone about your depression and why you are feeling that way, especially your parents. Parents can get you help faster, than any one else. You don’t have to explain to your parents your problems, but find someone that you can talk to, because depression can lead you to drugs, suicide, and just danger. Take Brianne for example, she felt like her depression followed her everywhere she went. She couldn’t get away from it because she kept it to herself. She said she couldn’t find a light, when all she had to do was ask for help, but I guess you have to be willing to get help.
Work site: (http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/depression/children_article.asp)
from another point of view part 2. . .
So now I’ve been in the water ball for eight almost nine months. Sheesh, I’ve gotten big. I have good news too, my parents are getting along a lot better and I figured out what the rumbling was. My mom told me another story, I really liked this one. This time she was talking to my daddy. She told him “sweetie, we must start getting along for our sake and the child’s. Imagine her growing up and we having problems, what do you think she’s going to end up like. The arguing is not ok, but disagree at times is alright. The rumbling as to stop, threaten me and trying to throw stuff at me when you cant get your way isn’t going to work. When I fall, there’s a possibility we can be hurting our child. You wouldn’t want that right? Didn’t think so. I love the fact that I have a husband who takes the time to listen to me when I have something to say. Now we can get counseling to help us, if you think that’s necessary, but we both have to agree on going. One more thing sweetie, the name calling and talking each other down, must go. I can not take the verbal abuse, that is what hurts me most. I know I’m getting bigger, but once our daughter come out, I’m going to be normal again.” I told you it was a good story. My dad, didn’t have any words to say. It felt like he touch the water ball, because one side got warmer and I kicked him because it was getting a little to hot. After I kicked him, he seemed surprised that I was capable of that, he was said “Teana Marie Norman, whoever that is, is going to be a great daughter and he was going to do whatever she wanted.” I hope he’s not talking about another girl, but I cant wait to arrive. I’m running out of space in here. I’m just glad that my parents have agreed to disagree at times and hopefully they keep that agreement. I’m also glad I figured out what the rumbling was, that crazy man was throwing stuff at my mommy, what if I got head damaged from her falling, I’m going to give him a big surprise when I first come out. . . .
from another point of view. . .
I’ve been inside this ball of water for five months now. I kind of like it in here I eat at least five times a day. Whoever is on the outside is taking good care of me, but everything now and then I think I here people arguing. I hope its not the people who made me. I wouldn’t like it very much if I had to be around people who argue all the time. Then after the arguing sometimes I hear rumbling and crying after. I think to myself “oh, that’s what crying sounds like I guess, but why the tears.” I wonder what they look like, or why the even appear. Do my mommy and daddy like each other? I think they do, or how else would I’ve have gotten in here. I hear stories sometimes, they put me to sleep. The last one I heard, my mommy was talking to someone, it went something like this, “I love my husband a lot, but I refuse to let him threaten and hurt me. This our life inside of me and I want the best for her. I don’t want her growing up knowing that we have problems, imagine how that will effect her. She needs both of her parents and he says he wants to be there for her. We’ve been married for ten years, that’s why we’ve decided to have a baby, but for the five months I’ve been pregnant he’s been acting different. Is it because I’m getting bigger and he is finally realizing I’m pregnant and that our hearts have now really combined? I don’t know, but I hope he gets better before our daughter id born.” Doesn’t it seems like she is unhappy, but in love? I agree with her, I hope my daddy gets better before I come out of here. He seems like he is a good person when they aren’t arguing. He talks to me, and says how beautiful I’m going to be and that I’m going to have my mothers looks mostly. She must be a really pretty person, that’s all he talks about and how much he’s going to love and be there for me. My parents sounds like great people, but it seems like they have bad times when they realize how big I’m getting. I think once I actually arrive they’re going to be just fine. They love each other and I think I’m just going to bring them closer. But I still wonder what the rumbling is at times. . .
interview with my mother about having a child and marriage. . .
Q: When, people get married and decide to have children, do they know that they are making a part of them? A: Yes, they know they are making a part of them because its coming from their genes, sperm, and ovaries. Its apart of who they are.
Q: Is it right, that a child is brought into this world without a say so?
A: Couples decides to have children because it is something that they want to raise and bring into this world. The child doesn’t have a clue it is being born.
Q: How does it feel knowing you have a living organism inside of you?
A: It’s exciting, a beautiful experience, feeling it move and kick. It’s like wow ! There’s a baby inside of me.
Q: Are abortions right?
A: I would say no, because you’re taking away a life, but a women should have the right to make that decisions, because it’s their body.
Q: How can a parent hurt such a remarkable gift?
A: When a parent abuses a child, it is because that parent as either been abuse, hurt, or having personal issues of their own and they are just taking it out on their child, but this doesn’t make it right.
Q: How can a parent ever rejected a child of their own?
A: I think when a parent rejects a child, they feel like they can no longer take care of a child the way they want to especially when the child is making mistakes. Sometimes its even when the parents just doesn’t care anymore or they just didn’t want their child in the first place.
Q: Where there times doing your pregnancy that you felt you were making a mistake?
A: No, because I wanted a child.
Q: Why did you want a child?
A: Because it’s something that’s a part of you and it can be a beautiful experience raising children.
Q: What does it feel like raising a child and teaching them the ways of life?
A: Raising a child and watching them go through the phrases of life and your making a bond with your child. But it can be hard at times, especially when they become teenagers because they go through pier pressure. But it’s a learning experiences for both, the child and the parent especially when its your first child. Watching your child learn how to walk and say their first words is watching them grow up.
Q: Did you learn anything while being married and the effects that it had on yourself and your child?
A: First of all I wasn’t married that long and never felt like I was married. I learned that if the parents are having problems it can affect the child because it is confusing them about what a family is supposed to be like. For a marriage to work, both spouse have to work together to make it work and they have to want it to work. It’s about communication and understanding.
Q: Is it right, that a child is brought into this world without a say so?
A: Couples decides to have children because it is something that they want to raise and bring into this world. The child doesn’t have a clue it is being born.
Q: How does it feel knowing you have a living organism inside of you?
A: It’s exciting, a beautiful experience, feeling it move and kick. It’s like wow ! There’s a baby inside of me.
Q: Are abortions right?
A: I would say no, because you’re taking away a life, but a women should have the right to make that decisions, because it’s their body.
Q: How can a parent hurt such a remarkable gift?
A: When a parent abuses a child, it is because that parent as either been abuse, hurt, or having personal issues of their own and they are just taking it out on their child, but this doesn’t make it right.
Q: How can a parent ever rejected a child of their own?
A: I think when a parent rejects a child, they feel like they can no longer take care of a child the way they want to especially when the child is making mistakes. Sometimes its even when the parents just doesn’t care anymore or they just didn’t want their child in the first place.
Q: Where there times doing your pregnancy that you felt you were making a mistake?
A: No, because I wanted a child.
Q: Why did you want a child?
A: Because it’s something that’s a part of you and it can be a beautiful experience raising children.
Q: What does it feel like raising a child and teaching them the ways of life?
A: Raising a child and watching them go through the phrases of life and your making a bond with your child. But it can be hard at times, especially when they become teenagers because they go through pier pressure. But it’s a learning experiences for both, the child and the parent especially when its your first child. Watching your child learn how to walk and say their first words is watching them grow up.
Q: Did you learn anything while being married and the effects that it had on yourself and your child?
A: First of all I wasn’t married that long and never felt like I was married. I learned that if the parents are having problems it can affect the child because it is confusing them about what a family is supposed to be like. For a marriage to work, both spouse have to work together to make it work and they have to want it to work. It’s about communication and understanding.
making the decision to have a child . . .
“Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” ~Elizabeth Stone
Do all parents feel this way? When, people get married and decide to have children, do they know that they are making a part of them? The quote from Elizabeth, makes me look at mothers that are pregnant more differently. Your child is like your heart, it can be broken, hurt, depressed, in pain, and sometimes feel your inner pain. Most parents don’t take the fact, that they are able to have a child for granted. Do you know how many parents are out there, that parents able to have children? Some people would do anything to have a child just to show them the world. Is it right, that a child is brought into this world without a say so? I guess God has a plan for all he creates. How does it feel knowing you have a living organism inside of you? How does it feel knowing that you planted a seed inside another? Life, love, where does it come from?
I think creating a child, is the most beautiful thing. A child is one of the best gifts that mankind could have. When you have a child, rather its meant to be or just an accident, but no child is an accident, but take proud in the child. He or she is going to be a part of you even when your deceased. Are abortions right? Everyone has their own opinions about that one. Making a lifelong commitment to take care of another and teaching them things of the world is a very big challenge. How can a parent hurt such a remarkable gift? Love is pain sometimes. For example, being your heart, your everything into this world is a very painful thing for a women. Sometimes its even life taking, but women still do it. How can a parent ever rejected a child of their own? Maybe these questions to life will be answered in the next blog. . .
Work Site : (http://www.quotegarden.com/parents.html)
Do all parents feel this way? When, people get married and decide to have children, do they know that they are making a part of them? The quote from Elizabeth, makes me look at mothers that are pregnant more differently. Your child is like your heart, it can be broken, hurt, depressed, in pain, and sometimes feel your inner pain. Most parents don’t take the fact, that they are able to have a child for granted. Do you know how many parents are out there, that parents able to have children? Some people would do anything to have a child just to show them the world. Is it right, that a child is brought into this world without a say so? I guess God has a plan for all he creates. How does it feel knowing you have a living organism inside of you? How does it feel knowing that you planted a seed inside another? Life, love, where does it come from?
I think creating a child, is the most beautiful thing. A child is one of the best gifts that mankind could have. When you have a child, rather its meant to be or just an accident, but no child is an accident, but take proud in the child. He or she is going to be a part of you even when your deceased. Are abortions right? Everyone has their own opinions about that one. Making a lifelong commitment to take care of another and teaching them things of the world is a very big challenge. How can a parent hurt such a remarkable gift? Love is pain sometimes. For example, being your heart, your everything into this world is a very painful thing for a women. Sometimes its even life taking, but women still do it. How can a parent ever rejected a child of their own? Maybe these questions to life will be answered in the next blog. . .
Work Site : (http://www.quotegarden.com/parents.html)
What is a child to do ?
“My life is not very good sometimes. I wish I were someone else. I tried finding my way out of life, but I know I would hurt the people that really love me.”
Sandy, Age 16
“It is hard to realize that the people we love are the ones who can hurt us the most—but forgiving is half the healing.”
Adriana, Age 16
Growing up in a home, and all you see is disagreements. Don’t like to tell anyone, because you don’t want them to know that your suffering. Your only a teenager, or a little younger. Nobody will understand your pain, not even an adult. Children deal with pain and depression more differently than adults to use to. If only they would take the time to sit down and see what we are feeling. I know if you look at me, you will see that I’m hurting. I don’t like perfect, nobody does. Wishing you were another that didn’t have these problems. Children think of killing themselves because of the pain they go through, but some stop and think of their love ones. Some family members care, others don’t give a rats tail. Its depressing feeling like no one loves you and that your world is coming to an end. Yes, the ones that we love, hurts us the most, which make us not want to love anyone besides ourselves. Forgiving? That word doesn’t exist to most, but for some, it is their was of getting over their depression. Parents do horrible things to their children, even if their visible or not. I feel that a child’s pain, is the worst pain. Every child should be able to be happy, but does the word happiness mean? most of us have no clue. Trying to think positive, but only negative thoughts come to mind. Parents drama, can lead a child into the wrong lifestyle. They start believing that drama is life. Messed up marriages, abuse, and depression, become their believes. They only believe in, what they’ve seen their whole life. Teenagers, how will yours end up?
(Work Site: http://www.ffta.org/publicpolicy_advocacy/personalizeadvocacy.pdf)
Sandy, Age 16
“It is hard to realize that the people we love are the ones who can hurt us the most—but forgiving is half the healing.”
Adriana, Age 16
Growing up in a home, and all you see is disagreements. Don’t like to tell anyone, because you don’t want them to know that your suffering. Your only a teenager, or a little younger. Nobody will understand your pain, not even an adult. Children deal with pain and depression more differently than adults to use to. If only they would take the time to sit down and see what we are feeling. I know if you look at me, you will see that I’m hurting. I don’t like perfect, nobody does. Wishing you were another that didn’t have these problems. Children think of killing themselves because of the pain they go through, but some stop and think of their love ones. Some family members care, others don’t give a rats tail. Its depressing feeling like no one loves you and that your world is coming to an end. Yes, the ones that we love, hurts us the most, which make us not want to love anyone besides ourselves. Forgiving? That word doesn’t exist to most, but for some, it is their was of getting over their depression. Parents do horrible things to their children, even if their visible or not. I feel that a child’s pain, is the worst pain. Every child should be able to be happy, but does the word happiness mean? most of us have no clue. Trying to think positive, but only negative thoughts come to mind. Parents drama, can lead a child into the wrong lifestyle. They start believing that drama is life. Messed up marriages, abuse, and depression, become their believes. They only believe in, what they’ve seen their whole life. Teenagers, how will yours end up?
(Work Site: http://www.ffta.org/publicpolicy_advocacy/personalizeadvocacy.pdf)
Thursday, May 29, 2008
When is enough, enough ?
Bruises, Bruises, Bruises, She kept seeing on her skin. She refused to tell anyone, because of her love for him, Tears fell from her beautiful face every night and day, She didn’t understand what she would do wrong, She did nothing, but loved him and only him. She tried to imagine her life without him…, …Impossible. Bruises, Bruises, Bruises, Seemed to appear again, she had now discovered a thing called self defense or even revenge. Thank God, there were no children, she agreed not to kill him, and she just wanted him to fell her pain. He had nothing, but good intentions; He would claim…He just wanted to be with her and other women. She knew he could get what he wanted, but so could she just in any moment. He didn’t respect her beauty, she loved the attention of others, and maybe if she cheated, but would there be more bruises?
So, this is the story of my life, Yes, me Cynthia Johnson, The one who is always helping others with their problems, but can’t seem to help her own. I love my husband John dearly and many people wonder why. My husband and I have been together since high school, those were the best days. It seems like the closer we grow together, the more we are growing apart. We’ve been married for 4 yrs. now, and I refuse to leave him because he is my life. Yes, I get tired of the bruises, but what can I do? If I fight back he’ll leave and I need him in my life. I can’t see myself loving another. Yes, he cheats and sees other women, But I know he loves me deep down inside. Maybe one day I’ll work up the courage to fight back, but that might be when my love for his dies. Unfortunately, I’m getting help because they say I’m in denial, and blind by love, but come on now, everyone has a first and I want this to be my last.
So, it’s been 2 months and things seem not to be getting better. John brought another women home, while I was out. Of course I did what; every woman would have done, I told her she had to leave, and that he was a married man. Unfortunately he didn’t tell her that. Ooops, guess he lost that one. Therapy seems to be helping me, I’m getting stronger and putting up with less, I’m planning to leave, but I’m waiting for the right day and time. He’s going to miss me when I’m gone I can guarantee that. For some reason my depression is gone, I smile everyday… And now that he sees he’s not getting to me, the bruises haven’t been appearing. Let’s just say he’s getting his revenge, in the most painful way, No drama, no hitting, no killing, just love. Like they say, they never know what they had until it’s GONE!
So, this is the story of my life, Yes, me Cynthia Johnson, The one who is always helping others with their problems, but can’t seem to help her own. I love my husband John dearly and many people wonder why. My husband and I have been together since high school, those were the best days. It seems like the closer we grow together, the more we are growing apart. We’ve been married for 4 yrs. now, and I refuse to leave him because he is my life. Yes, I get tired of the bruises, but what can I do? If I fight back he’ll leave and I need him in my life. I can’t see myself loving another. Yes, he cheats and sees other women, But I know he loves me deep down inside. Maybe one day I’ll work up the courage to fight back, but that might be when my love for his dies. Unfortunately, I’m getting help because they say I’m in denial, and blind by love, but come on now, everyone has a first and I want this to be my last.
So, it’s been 2 months and things seem not to be getting better. John brought another women home, while I was out. Of course I did what; every woman would have done, I told her she had to leave, and that he was a married man. Unfortunately he didn’t tell her that. Ooops, guess he lost that one. Therapy seems to be helping me, I’m getting stronger and putting up with less, I’m planning to leave, but I’m waiting for the right day and time. He’s going to miss me when I’m gone I can guarantee that. For some reason my depression is gone, I smile everyday… And now that he sees he’s not getting to me, the bruises haven’t been appearing. Let’s just say he’s getting his revenge, in the most painful way, No drama, no hitting, no killing, just love. Like they say, they never know what they had until it’s GONE!
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
Child & Spouse Abuse in a Marriage. . .
In an article that I read, Brent Bartholomew defines Spouse abuse as being a "behavior that is destructive to the body, mind, or spirit. In fact, long after any possible physical injuries heal, the emotional scars of abuse may still persist." Sometimes, marriage problems can lead to spouse abuse because the people are disagreeing all the time and they have came to a position where they have nothing else to do and they can not control their anger, so they abuse one another.
Most of the time in marriages, it is women who seem to get abuse. I have a friend, who use to live in a household where all her parents did was argued. She was about the age of five, when her parents finally decided to marry, but it was for her sake. She really wanted to be able to say that her parents are married. The father had four children already by another, but one before her by her mother. She was the last of the children. She was so happy when she heard that they were getting married because this was something she had been longing for. The marriage only lasted for four years. Those four years were the crazy years of her life. It seems like after the split up, she grew up every night. Her mother said, “she had to leave, because she refused to be beaten for no reason and by a man”. the mom wasn’t the only one was being abused it was her too. She use to try and take up for her mother because she knew her father had an anger problem and her mother tried to do everything to please him. Nothing seemed to make him happy, that’s why she just gave up and divorced him. She thought that this would be the end of the drama, she thought wrong. Their daughter is now fifteen and they’ve been divorced since 2002, they’ve been going to court every year since then. Why? Because the father wants custody, but the daughter doesn’t want to live with him because of his anger problem and she’s afraid at the age of fifteen that her father will abuse her again. The mother tries to do everything she can to understand her daughter, but it seems like its impossible for her to understand. Her daughter talks to her crazy, she only respects her to a certain point. The mother talks to her the same way, instead of trying to see why it is that her daughter gives her no respect. This young lady has been through a lot to only be fifteen, it might not be as worst as others homes, but this is still a lot of anger and depression to hold inside. It seems like the older teens get, the more they hold their emotions in.
Work Site: (http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=2354fccf2b7db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=a8d784d4a0a0c010VgnVCM1000004d82620a____)
Most of the time in marriages, it is women who seem to get abuse. I have a friend, who use to live in a household where all her parents did was argued. She was about the age of five, when her parents finally decided to marry, but it was for her sake. She really wanted to be able to say that her parents are married. The father had four children already by another, but one before her by her mother. She was the last of the children. She was so happy when she heard that they were getting married because this was something she had been longing for. The marriage only lasted for four years. Those four years were the crazy years of her life. It seems like after the split up, she grew up every night. Her mother said, “she had to leave, because she refused to be beaten for no reason and by a man”. the mom wasn’t the only one was being abused it was her too. She use to try and take up for her mother because she knew her father had an anger problem and her mother tried to do everything to please him. Nothing seemed to make him happy, that’s why she just gave up and divorced him. She thought that this would be the end of the drama, she thought wrong. Their daughter is now fifteen and they’ve been divorced since 2002, they’ve been going to court every year since then. Why? Because the father wants custody, but the daughter doesn’t want to live with him because of his anger problem and she’s afraid at the age of fifteen that her father will abuse her again. The mother tries to do everything she can to understand her daughter, but it seems like its impossible for her to understand. Her daughter talks to her crazy, she only respects her to a certain point. The mother talks to her the same way, instead of trying to see why it is that her daughter gives her no respect. This young lady has been through a lot to only be fifteen, it might not be as worst as others homes, but this is still a lot of anger and depression to hold inside. It seems like the older teens get, the more they hold their emotions in.
Work Site: (http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=2354fccf2b7db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=a8d784d4a0a0c010VgnVCM1000004d82620a____)
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Divorce...what a word!
One of my fellow bloggers asks the following questions: When is it ok to divorce someone? What is it; do you just start to grow tired of the other person? Is it right to make the other person continue on, when neither of you like each other, simply for the sake of your kid? To answer this question, we have to first understand the definition of divorce. DIVORCE! There are so many definitions when it comes to this word and it causes depression. The dictionary defines divorce as; “The termination of a marriage by court order; the state of having terminated a marriage. To terminate a marriage to someone by obtaining a court order, usually referred to as a divorce decree.” As you notice each definition uses the word “terminate”, which means to destroy. So, to answer you’re following question of when is it ok to divorce someone. I feel that it is never "ok" to divorce someone because marriage is supposed to be a life long commitment. Some people do not keep this commitment because of their disagreements, but then on the other hand we have marriage counselors today to help with marriage problems. I do think that it is possible that these people grow tired of each other, but also they find themselves attracted to others. It is totally normal to be attracted to someone that is not your spouse, but when people in marriages find themselves attracted to another person, rather than their spouse, this simply means that it is something that their spouse is not doing right. To be attracted to someone, is way more than what you see on the outside. Attraction, takes place, in inner beauty, personality, a person’s hearts, and if they agree with you to a certain point. Then, sometimes attraction takes place in the sexual apartment, because sometimes if a person isn’t sexually attracted to their spouse, it can build a wall between them and make their relationship further apart.In marriages you should always communicate and be honest with one another. A person should never hold things to themselves or lead a person on in the wrong way. So, it is not right to continue on in marriage if you find yourself not liking the opposite person, but you should find away to get along for your child’s sake.
Work Site: (http://www.yourdictionary.com/divorce)
Monday, May 19, 2008
Are your parents "Marriage Problems" affecting you?
"I think I don't want to be married to you anymore," is the most common phrase in marriages today. People that are married and have children do not think about how "divorce" will hurt the family. The child is going to start having emotional problems because he or she is going to think that maybe one parent does not love him or her as much. Going back and forth from different houses every now and then, instead of seeing each parent everyday is going to drive the child crazy. Families today are not how they use to be. Some people that get married are just making a mistake, they believe that it is the right thing to get married, but it turns out to be the exact opposite. Then, you have the people who get married because they find out they are pregnant and they think it is best for the child. Even though, they may be right, they also have to think of it as is this best for me. Families are so corrupted today because people do not get along and the parents are getting married for all the wrong reason. Some people marry because their in it for the money, or they like what they are around for the first couple of months, and some are even being obliged to get married. If this is how some marriages are today, I wonder what they will be like in the future….Friday, May 16, 2008
What is your family like?
Imagine that you lived in a family where something was always going wrong. Imagine that you can not explain your feelings and how you feel to your family. Many people today are in families like this. There are so many negative things happening in families today and this is what I am going to be talking about daily. Families go through a lot like, marriage problems, divorce, spouse abuse, child abuse, and sometimes this can have a major effect on their children. Everyday in some country around the world a family is going through pain and depression because of miscommunication. Sometimes if your child is a teenager they deal with depression by they do not express how they feel, from the fact that their parents are going through problems. Teenagers today like to keep their feelings to themselves instead of talking about them. Some Parents sometimes get caught in their problems; that they do not take the time to realize that their child is experiencing pain or depression. Problems in families can lead teenagers to suicide, abuse towards themselves, drugs, and internal emotions. Things like this can cause a teenager to start “acting” different and doing things they do not usually do. Family problems are the worst type of problems to deal with and sometimes it can affect parents with their jobs and children with school. So should parents keep their problems to themselves and not let the children know they are having problems? Or should children keep their emotions internal and suffer from depression? I’m going to let you think about these questions, then get back to you in the next blog...
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