Monday, June 2, 2008

interview with my mother about having a child and marriage. . .

Q: When, people get married and decide to have children, do they know that they are making a part of them? A: Yes, they know they are making a part of them because its coming from their genes, sperm, and ovaries. Its apart of who they are.

Q: Is it right, that a child is brought into this world without a say so?
A: Couples decides to have children because it is something that they want to raise and bring into this world. The child doesn’t have a clue it is being born.

Q: How does it feel knowing you have a living organism inside of you?
A: It’s exciting, a beautiful experience, feeling it move and kick. It’s like wow ! There’s a baby inside of me.

Q: Are abortions right?
A: I would say no, because you’re taking away a life, but a women should have the right to make that decisions, because it’s their body.

Q: How can a parent hurt such a remarkable gift?
A: When a parent abuses a child, it is because that parent as either been abuse, hurt, or having personal issues of their own and they are just taking it out on their child, but this doesn’t make it right.

Q: How can a parent ever rejected a child of their own?
A: I think when a parent rejects a child, they feel like they can no longer take care of a child the way they want to especially when the child is making mistakes. Sometimes its even when the parents just doesn’t care anymore or they just didn’t want their child in the first place.

Q: Where there times doing your pregnancy that you felt you were making a mistake?
A: No, because I wanted a child.

Q: Why did you want a child?
A: Because it’s something that’s a part of you and it can be a beautiful experience raising children.

Q: What does it feel like raising a child and teaching them the ways of life?
A: Raising a child and watching them go through the phrases of life and your making a bond with your child. But it can be hard at times, especially when they become teenagers because they go through pier pressure. But it’s a learning experiences for both, the child and the parent especially when its your first child. Watching your child learn how to walk and say their first words is watching them grow up.

Q: Did you learn anything while being married and the effects that it had on yourself and your child?
A: First of all I wasn’t married that long and never felt like I was married. I learned that if the parents are having problems it can affect the child because it is confusing them about what a family is supposed to be like. For a marriage to work, both spouse have to work together to make it work and they have to want it to work. It’s about communication and understanding.

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